Cut Wash and Blow, With a Happy Ending to Go

There are three types of women who make me feel vulnerable, which is an unfortunate blessing or a fortunate curse, because we are made for each other. Getting a hair cut makes my hair stand on their ends so it doesn’t get any easier for the hairdresser. My muscles get so tense during a massage the knots have never appeared more visible for the masseuse. And well ladyboys, I have what they have, so they may just be the only women on this planet I have the ability to understand. And the fact that I have used the word women is very disturbing.

If there is one thing I learnt about relationships from where else but the few gigabytes of educational video downloads of course. Relationships are all about the vulnerability. It is about taking down your invisible shield of invincibility, being unguarded, and allowing the other party to step into your comfort zone. It is like being naked in front of someone for that first time – the awkwardness, insecurities, and dangling family jewels. I am not encouraging you to strip in front of your friends and be vulnerable and all that. However, if you have the strong need to go full frontal in front of someone, I will always be that good friend you need.


I have always felt vulnerable sitting in that salon chair, mentally suffocating at how tightly the cloth is wrapped around my neck. Going for a hair cut makes me nervous. It changed when I met P’ Ying. She was a Thai hair dresser in her late 30s working at a complex catering for the local Thai community in Singapore. She had brown rebonded hair and her more than adequate face foundation gleamed under the harsh hair salon lighting.

She wanted to feel young, and probably look the part too. But I wish I could tell her that it was all unnecessary, for she aged well and beautifully. I could never communicate properly with her, or at least tell her to stop cutting my hair any further. I kept going back to her anyway. I felt comfortable being vulnerable sitting in her chair. It simply felt right.


Lying down motionless while a stranger kneads my body has always been awkward. Cat changed that. She is not a cat like the animal although I think having a real cat paw sharply over my bare skin may be a delightful sensation. I walked into this clean massage place (believe me) in Bangkok and what followed was an incredible first meeting story. She was 21, very attractive, and had a championship winning smile. For obvious reasons such as an uncontrollable natural male body reaction for example, I kept my eyes closed throughout the session.

We had a conversation in Thai and of course I know how I sound like in Thai. The masseuse next door was rubbing down her client who was a senior Thai lady and they got curious with this funny sounding Thai speaking man (I claimed I was from Chiang Mai). So, the four of us proceeded to have some ice breaking with a pink mysterious curtain between us. I was pleasantly surprised, no, totally taken back, when the masseuse next door took the liberty to lift up the curtain suddenly to see if I was a real Thai. Cat laughed off the knotty moment while I was still in the state of recovery. Oh, she had a championship winning laugh too.


I have always found them a fascination. They are a living paradox and they even have a lovely rhyme. Chicks with dicks? As much as I was fascinated, I was intimidated or it could have just been plain homophobia. They are usually taller and somehow manage broader shoulders and a deeper voice too. If these are the side effects of female hormonal tablets, I think I may just get a prescription for myself. I met Aey by coincidence many years ago. Getting relatively intoxicated at a Thai discotheque frequented by ladyboys is coincidence.

It was another coincidence when I bumped into him with my ex girlfriend who incidentally refused to speak to me for a day, because she was alarmed that I conversed with a random ladyboy on the street. I was proud that the whole stigma did not affect me and I could talk to him like he was like one of us. I was definitely a lot prouder when my good pals were persuaded into photographs with Aey in compromising positions for future blackmail. This is the beauty of vulnerability.

Business Development Steps and Strategies

Business development requires a multi-disciplinary approach and there is no ‘one size fits all’ strategy.Below are some of the ways available to help ensure business development:o Identify – Before you can seriously plan for business development it is necessary to identify new business opportunities.o Plan – Once new business opportunities have been identified you will need to decide how you can best reach those new customers and markets. If your in-house resources are already stretched, you may need to look for help elsewhere. The same applies if you find the capacity or skills for business development do not already exist within your business. Outsourcing is not always as expensive as you think and could work out more cost effective over the time needed.o Develop – What innovative marketing plans can you develop to raise your business profile among your existing customers and new markets? You may wish to consider things that you haven’t tried before. It is important that everything you plan to do can be tested on a small scale first and that you build in the opportunity to fine tune your efforts.o Implement – If your business is not at the stage to appoint a full time marketing director, at least hire an experienced business development professional to work with your company for a few days a month.Commitment is the key to business development. If you want to see results you must persevere. If your attempts are sporadic or you give up, you will waste the time, money and effort that have already been invested into your business development programme. Be consistent.

Selecting the Best Contractor For Your Home Improvement Project

Maintaining or renovating a home can be a very daunting task for most people. However, after all the hard work and investment in time and resources you have allocated for a home improvement project, the satisfaction of seeing a superbly crafted home that you can call your own can be priceless indeed. Such is the importance of choosing the best and most qualified contractor who is knowledgeable and capable enough to turn your vision into a remarkable work of art.When choosing a contractor for repairs or renovations for your home improvement project, it is vital that you first acquire all the important information about a particular contractor before ever committing in getting their services. You need to make sure that they are capable of performing all the inclusive work, including customized builds and improvements that you would want your home to have. To get all these pertinent information, you should ask your contractors a strategic set of questions designed to extract all the data that you will need. To help you start in this direction, you should ask the following set of questions:* Does the contractor have the appropriate knowledge and experience with the type of home improvement project that you have in mind?According to recent information from the industry, approximately 80 percent of contractors and builders are knowledgeable and are adequately trained in the latest construction and building techniques. However, even though they may have the training with these new techniques and the certifications to show for it (ex: techniques in energy-saving green building technologies, etc), their actual experience may have just been picked up or even achieved as they work on new projects. On some cases, the home renovation projects may involve a historic home with irreplaceable artifacts or sections. A contractor may not have the expertise in dealing with such a home nor could they match the craftsmanship involved with these historic masterpieces.* Is there an existing relationship between your contractor and architect/designer and have they worked together on a project before?For your home improvement project, you may take on the services of some of the best architects and interior designers in the whole of Massachusetts. To complement the expertise of these professionals, it is but proper to also get the services of the best contractors for the project. In such cases, it would be best to choose a contractor whom your architect or designer knows. They may be aware of the track record of these contractors and may be comfortable working with some that they can identify. With such arrangements, you can be assured of a timely completion of your project and in the manner that you envisioned it to be.* When you inquire something about the project, does the contractor communicate well with you?It is a normal thing for homeowners to ask something about a home remodeling project from their contractors. However, if all you get is a hasty answer without much details and it would appear that they want you off their faces, then be careful of such contractors. A good contractor should be receptive of the needs of their clients and should be ready to discuss every detail of the project should you ask for it.* Is the contractor experienced in working with your kind of home?A commercial construction is different from a home construction in terms of details and even on building and safety codes. The contractor should be adept in the type of home that you have, otherwise they might turn your priced possession into their laboratory for trial-and-error building methods.* How fast can the contractor start and how soon can they complete the job?Finding the best contractor is one thing, but having them start on your home as per schedule is another. You might be at the end of a long list of clients and would have to sit it out for months on end. You should weigh the urgency of having the work done as soon as possible or getting the services of the best contractor that you can get.* Is there a guarantee for their work after completion?A competent contractor will give you the assurance of an excellent renovation or repair work and will provide you with a guarantee on the work done. They should be confident enough of the quality of their work and give their clients the assurance that they need.Conducting a one-of-a-kind home improvement project for your Massachusetts home entails the best services from the best professionals available for the job. Taking a few extra moments in checking out your contractors before hiring them can spell the difference between a disastrous undertakings or a magnificent work of art you can call your home.